Presence & Following Your Joy
If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.
Lately I've been thinking about linear time and the expectations of following the supposed standard life timeline. This mostly comes to us through media and the same old standard portrayal of how life should look. Thank Goddess for the Internet or I don't know how I would cope! This rigidity of this singular message makes many of us creatives shut down and auto-pilot sets in. Ideas of what success looks like, what age is appropriate for major life events like marriage and who we are supposed to be are at the core of some of these messages.
Without presence and the courage to live our own authentic story we can easily fall prey to the seductive and subtle one-size fits all mentality, leaving us unrecognizable but ever so pop-culture friendly. I know I have personally struggled with societal standards and linear times subtle dictation of who and what I am supposed to be at what time in life.
Being the rebel that I am, I hate to say that all the representations of who I am supposed to be and whether or not people think I live up to this impacts me.....but it does, and when I find myself questioning, comparing, and considering, or making things easy by following suit, I try to go back and check in with the part of me who still believes in magic.
I invite you to play with me, rebel against the status quo and let's remember and move into how it felt to be a child. I truly believe the world would be a more joyful place if we all did this a little more. Some would say it's immature, it's time to grow up, or it's unrealistic to stay this way forever. I say it is unrealistic and sad to push down this pure joy that we were born with.
As children we see a world full of potential, a world without qualifiers such as "by this age I should" ...... or "if I don't have this by the time I'm ____ then I must be a failure". If we are lucky enough to have a safe and loving environment to grow up in we are left to just BE, at least for a little while.
This allows for a lot of space for imagination and allowing. Day by day I was swept up by the present experience that life handed me as it unfolded. I didn't worry about where I was supposed to be or who I should become. These are all future oriented thought processes which lead to anxiety and it is common knowledge that we are living in an anxiety driven society.
Let's redefine growing up... it doesn't have to mean growing out of joy, out of the magic. Let us not fall into favor with rigid consistency and a neurotic linear way of looking at existence just because we have bills to pay. Societal structures often train us out of the perfection of who we are so naturally. So I invite you to wake up late without guilt, don't pursue the day job instead of your passions just because you face adverse opinions of those who have stopped dreaming, create the life that exist in your most fantastic imaginings and it will come true.